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Domestic Violence Victims -> Survivors -> CONQUEROR

But he LOVES me | You DON'T know him like I do | He just doesn't want anyone else to have ME | I PROVOKED him | IF only I were..... | We already have too many YEARS together to start over | He said he was SORRY | I HIT him too | .. at LEAST it is not as bad as it used to be | I'm too SCARED to leave | I don't want anyone else to HAVE what I worked so hard for | Nobody else is going to WANT me | I'm TOO ugly, fat/skinny, etc. | We have KIDS | I don't have ANYWHERE to go | He will HURT my loved ones if I leave | He is too strong/POWERFUL | Nobody will BELIEVE me | He didn't mean it | Nobody knows him like I do | HELP
These statements are made far too often by Victims of Domestic Violence. I know this because I used to believe this myself. For so long I endured the abuse. I wanted out but I wanted to stay. I used to blame his upbringing, stress, drugs, alcohol and even his friends until all of the verbal and psychological abuse set in, then I blamed myself. I …

Go and do likewise!

Influencing the Church to be silent (mind your own business) or to act is a problem or solution in today's crisis. It is the very thing that men and women who were healed could NOT do even though Jesus told them not to say (John 5:11-18) and was "harassed because of it". Jesus also used a parable to explain His most important commandment "Love Your Neighbor" which speaks of a Priest (Pastor, Shepherd, Leader) and a Levite (a person is the church with status) crossed to the other side of the road passed the man who was beaten (Luke 10:25-37). Both of the stories above took place out on the streets. We the church need to get out of the safety of our 4 walls. Stop waiting for the sinner/hurt/broken people to come to you to get prayer, healing, word. Creating the biggest prayer group inside the church on this matter is another revival. Prayer is great.. Prayer is needed! Are we going out and praying with those who are hurting? Are we only praying for who we think …

Love doesn't Hurt | Hurt doesn't Love Pt1

Love doesn't Hurt | Hurt doesn't Love"but I love him" was a statement I used often. It was also a statement I heard my mother say.  I understood love to hurt, I saw it hurt and I felt it hurt. The more it hurt the more our love meant to me and to him.
}He said he hit me cause he just didn't want anyone else looking at me, that's cause he loved me and wanted me all to himself.. right? This time (and many more times) love hurt. 


} He said he hit me cause he was just so frustrated from work, that's cause he loved me and wanted us to have everything we needed. This time (and many more times) love hurt.


} He said he hit me cause he got caught cheating, that's cause he loved me and he didn't want me to leave him. This time (and many more times) love hurt.

There was always a reason.. he was drunk, he was tired, he was high, he was... and each time, love hurt. I loved him enough to believe him and even to make excuses for him. I blamed his family, upbringing,…

When affections fuel your passion! (pt1)

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What am I hear for!? What is the purpose of my life?Have you ever asked yourself that question!? What was the answer to your question!? pur.pose noun purpose, plural noun1. the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists 2. the system or principles according to which an activity or process is carried on 3. the justification for or reasoning behind something What happens when the current results of your life is a series of effects or consequences from our positive and negative choices? "Natural Consequences" is a term highly used with low explanation.

SCENERIO: two kids are playing on the playground, one embarrasses the other by taunting the other for not being able to climb the monkey bars. The kid that was taunted no longer wants to play with the other.

SCENERIO: Two women who were good friends were sharing personal experiences with each other privately. One of the women share information with another person, without her friends permission. The fri…

A letter to say... I forgive you...

All of these years, I have said.. "the day will come when I can make peace" and it took a 5th grader during community service to be Gods voice to encourage me to write a letter. So here it is... I forgive you for hurting me. I forgive you for violating my trust. I forgive you for not being the friend I needed most when you were supposed to be my "best friend". I forgive you for leaving me. I forgive you for ignoring my screams. I forgive you for that last glance over your shoulder that you gave me before you walked out. I forgive you abandoning me. I forgive you for not coming back for me. I forgive you for not coming forward afterwards. I forgive you for your choices. I forgive you for the rage and shame that I had to live with because you left me when I was raped. I forgive you. Please forgive me. Forgive me for hurting you. Forgive me for hating you all of these years. Forgive me for projecting my shame onto you. Forgive me for causing you to look over your shoulde…

Psalm 23 Prayer: The Lord is my Shepherd...

The prayer of Psalm 23 requires an understanding of the relationship between a Shepherd and His Sheep.As you prepare your heart and mind for this prayer, ask yourself "Do I really trust God?". I encourage you to read the chapter first and recognize the intimacy of the journey as David transitions from "The Lord" or "He" to a more personal and direct conversation as he refers to God as "you". As the journey intensifies and trust is developed by unconditional love from the Shepherd, we (the sheep) begin to recognize that God is always with us and ahead of us prepared to meet our needs, over and over and over again!
Do I really trust God?(v1) The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. You are my Shepherd. My total dependence is upon you. I know that you will always ensure my well being by protecting me, feeding me, providing for me, comforting me and filling every void and meeting my needs. Just as a sheep has ultimate trust in the Shepherd to not w…

I CAN'T BREATHE!

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"I can't breathe" are words we never want to hear or say. If you can't breathe immediately, you know something is wrong. If your loved ones can't breathe immediately you call for help. The only thing on your mind at that point is my loved one needs to breathe in order to live. We kick into survival mode and do everything we can to save a life, from pounding on the back, quick remedies, searching for an inhaler to calling 911.

I remember when my daughter was one year old. She began to experience asthmatic symptoms . I recognized it immediately, because growing up my mother, sister and brother all had severe asthma. There were no second thoughts, no hesitation when my daughter struggled to breathe to take her in for help. She was hospitalized off and on for a few years, she often struggled to breath on her own, yet in her attempts to do so her oxygen would quickly drop to a dangerous 57% (we are supposed to be a steady 95-100). She was on oxygen, received intense …